After watching ‘An Indirect kiss' i wondered what it would feel like to sleep on lion (he is undoubtedly a living organism made of cotton candy)… and then this came out.
i just remembered something that happened in middle school. when we all entered the lunchroom we were each given a color card, and had to sit at the table of that assigned color. so people who weren’t usually sitting with each other all had to sit and eat lunch together. i think this was only a one day thing. there might have been a follow-up to it, but i don’t remember what it was. but thinking about it now, i’m wondering if it was a part of a larger study or experiment or something. if so, it would’ve been interesting to do it for a whole week and see how the dynamic of each table evolved. maybe it was a week, actually, i don’t remember
2,000 dollar bird warmer.
therapy might be failing itself and its clients because of power dynamics
i hesitate to use “power dynamics” because it assumes the hierarchy of counselor-patient is a substantial one where the power might actually be legitimate
but here you have two human agents, one who has taken a problem or issue to another for their guidance, or perhaps only for the purpose of listening
i suppose it depends on what the goal of therapy is and the therapist’s approach, but i find people benefit much more when the exchange is mutual
that is, when we are both giving and taking in words, problems, suggestions
my therapist used to be very big on keeping things professional, on avoiding “conflicts of interest” and kept her life very private. she didn’t even let me know her birthday upon hearing that i was very interested in astrology
and maybe many therapists are much more relaxed about this, but i expect that most therapists enforce a relationship where the patient is the one who is there to talk, the one who is paying for the time to talk about Me Me Me
but what if we actually learned more from spontaneous, mutual exchanges
what if we actually found ourselves becoming better people in the process of listening to others, rather than talking about ourselves and all the things surrounding “i” “me” and “my”
we want to talk about how mental health issues are stigmatized but when we enforce these differences between who is capable of helping whom and how, we enforce the stigma
imagine entering an elevator with a stranger and the conversation you might be having between floors. imagine the elevator gets stuck for an hour and how that conversation might expand. this is a basic human interaction and no matter who you or your stranger may be, you will both eventually realize that your judgement of the other is as temporarily suspended as you both are in that elevator
and in those moments, you are both incredibly normal and maybe even equally capable of helping and listening to each other
but when you’re entering a therapist’s office you’re the abnormal one, even if you’ve told yourself “therapy is good for everyone” subconsciously lingering is a fear of brokenness, a need to be fixed
and never in your therapeutic process does the thought occur to you that you might be helping your therapist just by sharing your story. that’s not what you’re there to do, after all. at the very least, you’re just getting them paid. so as subtle as it may be, you’re assuming yourself to be quite useless, as if your problems make you incapable of helping other people deal with theirs.
in short: maybe you’re not learning as much about yourself as you could be if you knew, or at the very least couldn’t deny, that your interaction with another person is just as beneficial to them as it is to you
so why not have a therapy like being stuck in an elevator?
i really wanted to talk about one of my favorite ytp creators, cjflo, whose videos still manage to make me cry out of laughter
the halloween one, the r kelly ones, the george lopez and fresh prince ones aaaaah they’re all so hilarious